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Wedding Ceremony Procedures
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Etiquette
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A wedding is a sacred event and should be observed with the utmost respect. Thus, during our ceremonies, it is important for all involved to conduct themselves in the appropriate manner.
If the behavior of the participants and/or guests is deemed improper or disruptive, we reserve the right to cancel the ceremony. Please help us to create a joyous and memorable occasion for the bride and groom by ensuring that everyone obeys this simple etiquette:
- Do not be late
- Do not move around needlessly during the
ceremony.
- Do not bring monsters to the wedding site, and
then release them.
- Do not come to the wedding site on your own.
Please stay in the designated waiting area.
- Do not use /shout for ANY reason while waiting.
- Refrain from casting spells, synthesizing, or
using unnecessary items until the ceremony is
over.
- Refrain from unnecessary chatting once the
ceremony begins, including excessive emotes.
- Do not engage in battle.
- Maintain a reasonable standard of decency
during the ceremony.
- Do not engage in any other activities that
might disrupt the ceremony.
- Do not send unnecessary /tells to the groom or bride.
Questions should be directed to the chaperone.
- Do not invite more guests than your selected location allows for.
The attendance limit is based on the site, and limits are in place to avoid latency.
It is the responsibility of the chaperones to inform all attendees of the above etiquette, but they are free to do so in their own words, if they wish.
Preparations
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(1) Rehearsal and Review Prior to the Wedding Day
The groom, bride, and chaperone are expected to be familiar with the wedding details and script when meeting with the Wedding Master. If you're not familiar with the information the ceremony may be cancelled. During the meeting, which takes place 60 minutes before the wedding, your preferences, the procedures, and script will be reviewed. However, the three of you must hold your own rehearsal sometime during the 72 hours before the wedding day, which the Wedding Master will not be involved in.
You are welcome to review the information together in any manner that you see fit. However, please make sure ALL of the following tasks are completed:
Chaperone
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- Inform all guests of the date, time, waiting area, and basic etiquette. You will have more time to review the rules with them on the wedding day so a simple overview is acceptable.
- Forward the script information to the groom and bride if you have not done so yet.
- Practice walking in a straight line. You can use ALT Z, CTRL Z or / on the numpad to toggle run and walk. If you have no keyboard you can tilt the analog stick gently to walk.
- Remind all of the guests to bring drinks for the toast. Any drink is acceptable but please do not bring potions of ANY type.
Groom and Bride
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- Practice walking in a straight line as mentioned in the Chaperone's section.
- Practice turning in place using first person view. If you have a full keyboard with a numpad, hit 5 on it to change views. When you do not see yourself, hold 4 or 6 to turn. If you don't have a numpad, you can use ALT V or CTRL V to change views, or press on the analog stick. When you do not see yourself, hold the movement stick or movement keys to the left or right to turn.
- Wedding vows will be based on your nation. Make sure to inform the Chaperone if you change allegiance before the wedding day.
- The bride must not wear any opaline or ceremonial gear to the meeting, regardless of whether or not a bridal set is requested.
(2) Attire and Appearances
In regards to attire and equipment, helmets, masks, visors, faceguards and heavy head items should not be worn. Hats, cloaks, circlets, eyeglasses and the like are acceptable. Female guests should not wear opaline, ceremonial, or wedding feet, leg or body items out of respect for the bride. If your wedding is indoors (Metalworks or Jeuno), please ask guests to remove their hats.
All attendees are required to remove weapons and shields in their "main" and "sub" slots. Items in "range" and "ammo" slots that do not alter appearance are acceptable.
It is recommended that one dress in a manner befitting a sacred occasion. This request extends not only to the bride, groom, and chaperone, but to all those who plan to attend the ceremony. The bride, groom, and chaperone should discuss this matter beforehand in order to establish a general guideline, which in turn should be passed on to all attendees. However, the only OFFICIAL rules for attire are the ones regarding weapons, heavy headgear and opaline/ceremonial/wedding gear.
As an optional service, a complete wedding dress set will be provided for the bride. The set will be given to the bride during arrangements for the ceremony. If it was not requested on the original application, but you'd like to request it on the wedding day, bring the extra 50,000g fee. If the bride plans to wear opaline or ceremonial gear, she mustn't equip it on the wedding day until directed to do so by the WM.
The Groom, Bride and Chaperone are required to close their bazaars before the wedding begins, but it is not required for guests to close theirs. Linkpearls and Mentor flags are acceptable for everyone. However, in the case of the groom and bride, please use your best judgment and refrain from wearing Linkpearls and Mentor flags if they will be distracting to you during practice or the ceremony.
If the wedding is taking place outdoors, all pets, chocobos, and any other sort of summoned or charmed NPC *MUST* be called off from the commencement of the meeting with the WM up until the ceremony is completed.
(3) Drinks
Toward the end of the wedding, the Registrar will lead everyone in a toast. Grape Juice will be provided to the groom, bride, and chaperone. Please ask your guests to bring a drink with them so that they can participate in the toast! Any type of drink is acceptable, but please ask them not to bring potions or other medicine-type items.
(4) Wedding Fees
If the wedding ceremony fees cannot be paid on the wedding date, the ceremony will be canceled.
(Players will have to reapply if they wish to hold another ceremony.)
Please do not forget to bring the additional 50,000-gil fee to the ceremony if you are requesting a bridal set.
All fees will be collected from the chaperone when meeting the WM 60 minutes beforehand. The WM will ask the chaperone to initiate a trade.
Arrangements
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Specific information about your wedding site will be furnished when the chaperone confirms the reservation.
The bride, groom, and chaperone must proceed directly to the wedding site, where they will be asked to confirm some information and preferences. At this time, the chaperone must pay all wedding fees to the Registrar when requested. Then, the chaperone will be given the confetti crackers, which must be distributed to the guests. The wedding items (rings, optional bridal set) are EX and will be placed directly in to the couple's inventories. They are not permitted to equip them until instructed. The Registrar will trade with the groom and bride to give them their grape juices for the toast.
After all of your preferences have been confirmed, the Wedding Master will describe the procession for the bride, groom, and chaperone. The WM will make sure the instructions are clear, and will ask the bride, groom, and chaperone to try it on cue. On completion, the WM will review some information about the ending for the chaperone. The chaperone will then be dispatched to the guests so that they can review the rules and distribute the crackers. The Wedding Master will review the script with the groom and the bride during this time, and will contact the chaperone with further instructions when the review has been completed.
PLEASE NOTE: On the wedding day, the three of you must be at the wedding site and ready to meet 60 minutes before the scheduled wedding start time. You should all be able to see /say chat, and ALL early guests must be at the waiting area. If the three of you are not at the wedding site and ready to meet by 10 after the hour (for example, 4:10PM if the meeting is scheduled for 4:00PM), the wedding will be cancelled, without exception. You are encouraged to recruit some of your guests to serve as ushers to help keep the guests at the waiting area.
* Both the bride and groom must keep at least two inventory spaces open to hold the wedding ring and grape juice. The chaperone must reserve two inventory spaces to hold the crackers and the grape juice.
* If a bridal set was requested in the application, the bride will need 4 additional empty inventory spaces to hold the entire set. If the set was not requested on the application, but you'd like it anyway, please bring the 50,000g fee to the ceremony, and inform the WM when your preferences are confirmed. If the Bride has Opaline or Ceremonial gear, she MUST NOT equip these items until the guests are seated.
Ceremony Commencement
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PLEASE NOTE:
The groom and bride should decide whether they would like to use macros for their lines, or if they'd rather type them out. If they want to use macros, they should have them set PRIOR to meeting with the Wedding Master.
When the chaperone has escorted the guests to the wedding site, they should make sure that the guests are settled. The chaperone will then get in place with the bride. The Wedding Master will /t the chaperone to ensure that the wedding party is ready to begin. The groom and bride should make sure to inform the chaperone if they go AFK at all so that the wedding is not started prematurely.
When preparations are complete, the Registrar will announce the commencement of the ceremony, first by sounding a Wedding Bell and saying a few lines to the guests.
Registrar: Ahem. Quiet, please! Quiet, please!
My name is Registrar Mefoele, and I have come on behalf of the Department of Industry
To preside over the nuptial contract of the couple that stands here before us.
Would the witnesses please step to the side and form an aisle.
The registrar will then call for the procession:
Registrar: Will the applicants step forward.
From the vantage point of the wedding procession, the bride must be on the left, and the groom on the right. The chaperone must walk slightly behind and to the left of the bride, as an escort. The groom, bride and chaperone should leave their starting spots at the same time, but should not worry about being exactly synchronized. The Registrar will review this in detail during practice.
When the couple reaches the altar, the chaperone must /cheer or /bow to the bride and then move to join the first row of guests.
When the wedding procession has concluded, the Registrar will introduce the couple, starting with the groom:
Registrar:
This <job> serves as <rank/city>,
He enjoys taking part in the adventuring group '<linkshell>,'
as well as practicing his hobby, <tradeskill>.
His motto is '<motto/saying>.'
Ladies and gentlemen, let's have a big hand for the groom, [groom]!
At this point, the groom will take a step forward and bow. After a few seconds, he will return to face the Registrar. The bride will be introduced next:
Registrar:
This <job> is <rank/city>,
She enjoys fighting alongside the adventuring group '<Linkshell>,'
as well as <tradeskill>.
Her motto is, '<Motto/saying!>.'
Let's have a warm round of applause for the bride, [bride]!
The bride will then face the crowd and bow as the groom did.
Please note that the items in the <> brackets will changed based on job, rank, nationality, Linkshell name, tradeskill or hobby (fishing, cooking, helping new people, etc.), and selected motto. Please ask the Bride and Groom to think of items that they would like to include as their motto and hobby.
When the applause dies down, the Registrar will read a prepared statement from the President of Bastok.
Registrar: Quiet, please! Now I will read a prepared statement from the President.
After the letter is read, the Groom and Bride will be asked to face each other.
Registrar: Face each other.
The couple must then turnto face each other. The Registrar will then lead the couple in their vows.
The groom will be addressed first, and will repeat after the Registrar one line at a time.
Registrar: [groom], please repeat after me:
During the ceremony, the Groom will repeat after the Registrar one line at a time as follows (using Bastokan vows as an example):
Registrar: In abidance with the laws of the Republic,
Groom: In abidance with the laws of the Republic,
Registrar: I, [groom], take this woman, [bride],
Groom: I, [groom], take this woman, [bride],
Registrar: to be my lawfully wedded wife.
Groom: to be my lawfully wedded wife.
Registrar: To have and to hold,
Groom: To have and to hold,
Registrar: In sickness and in health,
Groom: In sickness and in health,
Registrar: Till death do us part.
Groom: Till death do us part.
The bride will be addressed next, and will repeat after the Registrar one line at a time as previously detailed. Your specific vows will be provided to the chaperone when they confirm the date.
The rings will then be exchanged:
Registrar: The Metalworks would like to present these rings to our couple.
Please, face me and take these rings.
Here, the bride and groom must turn to face the Registrar for the exchange of rings.
The Registrar will target the groom, then the bride, and then un-target to represent trades.
She will then continue:
Registrar: Those rings were forged by Fatimah, the finest goldsmith in Bastok.
At a glance, they resemble nothing more than ordinary ornaments. However, do not be fooled by appearances.
Within the twin rings lies a great power. Do you understand what power I am speaking of?
The Bride and Groom must both reply with "Yes" or /nod
Both the bride and groom must now equip the rings on their left ring slot (Ring 1).
The Registrar will continue:
Registrar: Excellent. As long as there is love in your hearts, may these tokens protect you always.
Face each other.
The Registrar will now lead the guests in a toast.
Registrar: Now, I would like to make a toast to the bright future that lies before our couple.
Please take out your drinks. Wait a moment.
Is everyone ready? Together now,
To the newlyweds!
The Registrar, Bride, and Groom will now use the grape juice provided to them while the guests use the juice that they brought.
The Registrar will make the pronouncement of marriage:
Registrar: Congratulations! With those present here bearing witness,
and by the power vested in me by the Republic of Bastok,
I now pronounce you husband and wife.
You are all now officially permitted to eat, drink, sing, and have a joyous night!
The bride and groom should then proceed back down the aisle.
It is our sincere hope that this wedding will prove to be a memorable and joyous occasion. We look forward to seeing you.
Mefoele
Department of Industry Registrar