Jennifer,
Life is all about interpretation.
Here is how I interpreted our intervention and confrontation with each other earlier this morning. I was patiently waiting for you to finish stocking your end aisle/cap, so I could immediately react to an incident that occurred in my aisle, when I suddenly realized that you had my attention, and thus I had yours. I said can I please get by you, after repeating this a few more times, not realizing that you had already fully coherently understood my request, I decided to take off my headset, and discovered you were interjecting me with an English lesson.
You exclaimed that my approach was invalid and that I should simply reconstruct my sentence to conform to appropriate English standards. You also suggested that I was using wrong context, and then further setting your self as unaware of comprehension, and that you were perhaps poorly knowledgeable to acknowledge and/or react to the unknown context of my request, basically acting stupid, however willingly enough to share your insightful views as to how to correct myself, perfecting my sentence structure, and conform, to what felt like in my mind, were demands of expectations, which I did not feel like adhering to after your negative interjection, but would have considered doing so, on the basis of our friendly co-worker relationship if you had simply asked.
Yes, your absolutely right, I should not have used the terms can i, which obviously only reflects on the judgment, rather then the reaction, and that according to some, would have also be considered insulting. However, in my mind, this caused a milestone, figuring that you wished of me to be more submissive in my actions caused me to react to you negatively, I felt as if your message was far more demanding then I could conjure and perform, and thus conform too.
It was the way you forced your self onto the situation, both confusing me with the literal aspect, and the intolerable result that suggested its self to me, that I should have to explain myself further, when I suddenly realized that you were intentionally being misunderstood and misinterpreted. (by now, you were telling me what to do and acting stupid) I also believed that you may have felted insulted by the way I would not submissively react to your hidden agenda, and that was to conform me to using more appropriate context.
But when I took a look outside of the box, I am in a work force that does not have any demand or high expectations for me to conform to any such English standards that you abruptly wished of me, without any consideration as to how I may feel, to your interjection, at least to tell me how I am too say and not to say something directly or indirectly too you.
It would have been more appropriate and appreciative if you were too simply ask rather then demand. That what I was saying, did not make you feel perhaps comfortable, or perhaps better well suited (I really have no idea why you needed me to say may i), rather then expect me to conform to your demands, In the future, could you be more considerate of perhaps my feelings, if you used the appropriate context and sentence structure... or something else, rather then Ooh, your not saying that 'incorrectly', so I don't 'know' what you want, so I am not going to do it... This caused me to interpret the situation as, if I was to become more submissive to you, in order for you to grant my request. Rather then simply recognizing the fact that I was not appreciating you and your feelings, that is to say, that my choice of words, were not appropriately conjured up (I blame hormones for that) and I would then ensure that I would conform to that standard in the future, rather then abruptly interjecting and treating me like I was in a 4th grade English lecture.
I can see that I resulted to a primitive male ego emotion that perhaps resulted in a loss of a friendly co-worker relationship with you, but this is by no means a reason for the way that I reacted and treated you, once I recognized what I was doing wrong, I simply had to move myself out of the situation, and walk away.
My use of inappropriate language did get me into some trouble today, which I am truly sorry for. With my sincere apologies, you have my word that I will not interrupt or expect you to go out of your way to do something for me. I am sorry for even considering and recognize you were alive, and that in the future, I will avoid confrontation with you, if that is what you really want.