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hahaboohoo: Hey stranger [not sure if you opened with this, shows a lot of need in this context.]
HB9 =): Heyy what's up
hahaboohoo: Just chillin at home, how's life treating ya? [feminine]
HB9 =): Not bad. I'm sick though :(
hahaboohoo: Ahh everyone is getting sick, feel better! [passive, doesn't lead]
HB9 =): Thanks!
HB9 =): What have you been up to?
hahaboohoo: Going out as usual, working out, went to a spa.. Reading
some psychology books right now on selfcontrol cause I hate it when I
follow my goals for a week and then slack off for 3-4 days after [assumes a submissive posture]
hahaboohoo: And now I'm relaxing in my comfy bed and too lazy to do
anything haha [anchors negative states of being to self]
HB9 =): What goals?
HB9 =): Haha
HB9 =): I feel u
hahaboohoo: Diet, I eat extremly healthy at home but when I'm out with
my buddies I tend to eat bad food like fried rice, etc.. Also working
out consistently.. Cleaning my place consistently, stuff like that [anchors lack of self control to self]
HB9 =): Good for you:)
HB9 =): I should eat healthy too but bar food is just too delicious yumm
hahaboohoo: Haha I know.. I went to aroma and tried their tuna salad
it was really good actually
HB9 =): Tuna salad is healthy omg dkm
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hahaboohoo: What I'm looking at right now from my bed
HB9 =): Snow?
HB9 =): Wow u live so high up I'd be way too scared for that
hahaboohoo: Lol 31 stories, everyone is an ant from up here.. Nah the
lake, I like looking at the boats, and the planes landing [the essence of something better, should be more inducing]
HB9 =): True. Sounds nice. I'd be scared though
hahaboohoo: Its ok I wouldn't let you go onto the balconey unless you
wanted to :p [ridiculousness]
HB9 =): Lol what if I fell:(
hahaboohoo: I wouldn't let you fall [once again the essence of something better.]
-6 HOURS LATER, time distortion- [time has pssed, not a distortion--a distortion is a pattern used to change one's perception of how much time has passed in an interaction.]
HB9 =): Just saw u wrote this! Well I prob saw it before but I just
realized? Lol sorry I'm late. What are you up to now?
HB9 =): I can't sleep, :(
hahaboohoo: I'm on king st just left a fashion show, are you in toronto? [nice! logistics!]
HB9 =): No. In Ottawa! Its raining here..:) perfect sleeping weather
HB9 =): How was it? I've never been to one!
hahaboohoo: It was nice, its nice out.. Why can't you sleep? [bumbling, meandering, redundant]
hahaboohoo: I just got home [an odd follow up]
HB9 =): Idk..I'm usually a good sleeper. I could win an award for
sleeping =D *nerd*. I haven't been outside since Friday lol!
hahaboohoo: Maybe you have something on your mind [you are speaking the subtext, change the content]
HB9 =): Hmm.. My imminent death perhaps
HB9 =): Lol
hahaboohoo: What! Do you think a lot about death? [oh god, here we go.]
HB9 =): I mean, I feel sick lol!
HB9 =): I sometimes think about death.. Its scary..
HB9 =): I think I am thinking about my boyfriend. We just fought, idk
whose fault it was. Probs both but idk how to fix it? I guess
hahaboohoo: I think about it too, but it motivates me to follow my
dreams and not waste time [jesus christ dude, save this shit for your therapist, and or lead it into something she can interact with]
HB9 =): I wish I was as inspired. My dreams = the weekend so I can lay in bed
hahaboohoo: Dreams are important, they let you know that you should
change your life, and what you really desire
hahaboohoo: What did you want the most when you were little? [also the essence, not quite the content.]
HB9 =): Idk..
HB9 =): I'm thinking
hahaboohoo: I don't know, I doesn't matter.. [next time jstu let her fuck you in the ass so she really knows who's boss.]
HB9 =): I can't remember. I probably didn't want anything
HB9 =): What did you want?
hahaboohoo: Well my mom told me that I asked her questions about stars
and what everything meant from a young age like 4 yrs old. My parents
worked long hours so I told my mom I was going to become a
millionaire so she could spend time with me instead of working [this is good shit, but poorly placed--this is the kind of stuff you want from her, first.]
HB9 =): Awwww
HB9 =): I wish there an emoticon for pinching cheeks [i would not reward her for the frame she just set. i'd pull, go hotter, colder, or reframe.]
hahaboohoo: She reminded me a few weeks ago actiually lol
HB9 =): How far along are you on your millionaire dream lol
hahaboohoo: I don't know it doesn't matter, my parents are happy now
and they couldn't be better.. I always ask myself if I'm happy and I
enjoy what I'm doing, and if I don't I stop [you're basically forcing this girl to exist beyond you, you're chunking you're introspection with "I don't know."]
HB9 =): I don't ever ask myself that.. I don't do things I don't enjoy
unless its for school [and she confirms this...with "I'm not like that, fuck face."]
hahaboohoo: I left a high paying career because I didn't enjoy it, I'm
willing to sacrifice anything for happiness [you're qualifying yourself to her.]
HB9 =): :) me too!
hahaboohoo: That's really good HB9, I think that's important [you do it again, validation ~_~]
hahaboohoo: Its good that you value happiness [you try to regain your frame.]
HB9 =): Everyone should value it.. [she takes it back from you by chunking up]
hahaboohoo: What about freedom, would you do something that took away [you ask her a shitty leading question]
all your time?
HB9 =): If I enjoyed it [she asserts more dominance.]
hahaboohoo: You have to ask yourself then, if you enjoy every part of
your life, career, hobbies, friends, relationship.. I think that will
help you [after being submissive, showing no control of the frame, and allowing her to posture you try to project authority]
HB9 =): Hm
HB9 =): Help me with? [she smells this and calls your bluff]
hahaboohoo: What's on your mind.. and sleep ofcourse :) [and you use a smiley.... zing]
HB9 =): Sometimes I don't enjoy my relationship X_X [and now she knows you're her gay best friend, listen to her talk about her relationship]
HB9 =): I'm going to try to sleep now. We can continue in the morning:) [she tells YOU that YOU'RE ALLOWED to continue this in the morning]
hahaboohoo: Ok HB9, I hope you feel better, physically and emotionally! <3 [you say okay! thank god! i was concerned you weren't going to talk to me again! i hope you feel better!]
HB9 =): Thanks. :) ({}). Goodnight [COOMMMMBOOOOOBREAKKKKERRRRRRRR]
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